08-26-2007 04:09 PM
08-26-2007 09:56 PM
08-26-2007 10:29 PM
08-27-2007 08:04 AM
08-27-2007 06:48 PM
It doesn't feel like they love each other--they obsess over each other, but they....basically, they didn't have a chance to date. OR while they WERE together, there wasn't enough detail as to why they love each other. Sure, the attraction was there at first, but that isn't enough for me.
At least with Jacob, he was there hanging out with her for month and months--and we got to see a lot of that in New Moon. We didn'tget that much detail with Edward.
Also, can she *really* and truly love Edward if she thinks that he's too good for her? She basically idolizes him......of course, he does too, but it's because he thinks he loves her. She thinks he's too pretty, too smart, too grown up--it's as though she is in love with a movie star and can't get past it.
i hope that when/if she becomes a vampire, their real love will sink in (if she doesn't get with jacob....and i have a feeling she won't!)
08-27-2007 08:50 PM - edited 08-28-2007 04:59 PM
Good points – obsession is a perfect word for their relationship. If anyone in this series really "loves" anyone else, it's Jacob! His love for Bella – to me – seems "real" and isn't self-centered.
Message Edited by paulgoatallen on 08-28-2007 04:59 PM
08-28-2007 11:49 AM
But anyway, on the original topic... I know people have cited the drug comparisons, Jacob says that Edward is Bella's drug but they also tend to overlook that Edward agrees that Bella is "his brand of heroin." We all remember our first love, right? I know I do, I was engaged at 17. It's irrational and makes you blind to lots of other things, and I think the way to tell if it's love or infatuation is time. In the case of Edward and Bella, is two years enough to be sure when they walk down the aisle?
08-28-2007 02:25 PM
08-29-2007 04:57 PM
Don't you think that the 2 years they have been together cannot be measured in "human years"- it was like 10 years compacted into the experiences they've had in the 2 years....
I think there is something deeper there than infatuation. They seem to have connected in a very strong way...
About Jacob- he is an amazing friend for Bella, but is he mature enough for her? Can't a guy and a girl be great friends without one of them getting the wrong idea, so to say?
08-29-2007 06:59 PM
Bella, on the other hand, is still a teenager in human years but her maturity should also be a factor. She has acted as a parent for most of her life. She may lack experience in the romance department but that does't mean she doesn't know what she wants.
I think Bella and Edward are truly in love with each other. Their love has been tested over and over again.
There is a quote that immediately comes to my mind...if you love someone set them free, if they come back to you then it is truly meant to be?? Bella and Edward are meant to be together.
08-30-2007 03:53 PM - edited 08-30-2007 03:57 PM
Message Edited by jb73 on 08-30-2007 03:57 PM
09-02-2007 02:46 PM
09-08-2007 09:15 PM
Bella, although younger in age, has had many life experiences that have matured her. She's single handedly taking care of her father, and her mother before that. She's seen a marriage go wrong (often teaches you what not to do), and made the very self sacrifing decision to leave her mother and new husband to live with Charlie because it was best for her mom. I think that also proves how mature she is.
I still really think she's not in love with Jake - this is her confusing her brotherly love for him with his overwhelming attraction and love for her. It's hard not to get caught up in the moment, especially when making life altering decisions (vamp or no vamp - marry Edward or not).
So, to sum up this very long message: yes, I think they're in love. The kind that will grow over time - hopefully a very long time!
09-10-2007 11:05 AM
Well I'll try haha:
I know I already osted this somewhere (in here?)
"Q. What’s the deal with Bella just falling in love with Jacob in the eleventh hour of Eclipse? Don’t you believe in true love anymore? What happened to blacken your soul, woman??
A. First of all, let me say that I do believe in true love. But I also deeply believe in the complexity, variety, and downright insanity of love. A lucky person loves hundreds of people in their lives, all in different ways, family love, friendship love, romantic love, all in so many shades and depths. I don’t think you lose your ability—or right—to have true love by loving more than one person. In part, this is true because you never love two people the same way. Another part is that, if you’re lucky, you learn to love better with practice. The bottom line is that you have to choose who you are going to commit to—that’s the foundation of true love, not a lack of other options.
Next, Bella does not fall in love with Jacob in Eclipse. Bella falls in love with Jacob in New Moon. I think it’s easy to understand why this fact doesn’t occur to her. Bella has only fallen in love one time, and it was a very sudden, dramatic, sweep-you-off-your-feet, change-your-world, magical, passionate, all-consuming thing (see: Twilight). Can you blame her for not recognizing a much more subtle kind of falling-in-love?
Does this love devaluate her love for Edward? Not for me. For me, it makes that perfect true love stronger. Bella has another option. She has a really good one. An option that’s easier in many ways, that takes nothing—like her family, present or future—away from her. She would have love, and friendship, and family—an enviable human future. But she chooses Edward over all of this. This makes it real for me."
09-14-2007 09:39 PM