10-13-2007 09:50 PM
10-18-2007 11:53 PM
10-19-2007 09:41 PM
While I see the stress between mother and daughter, and recognize that it is dense as all get out, I wonder if there might be a more positive undercurrent to it. I get the impression that Leigh thinks deeply into things, perhaps sometimes too far and with too shaded a lens. While Kara seems standoffish with her mother, I wonder if Kara recognizes it with the same level of severity as her mother. I would see it as if Leigh were to ask Kara outright if she felt any anomosity between them that Kara would thell her mother no, and mean it to a strong degree. I also think that Leigh has instilled more than she thinks into Kara. There are a few time where Kara imites her mother: She does take on the burden of guilt as her mother almost thinks she should, they both seem to have the same response to seeing her respective mother in pain, both replying, "That's sad." and then almost seeming unsure of the next step. I think Leigh just expects too much that Kara should just be running and flying into her arms, especially during this crisis.
You are right, Erin. Sometimes no matter how close a mother-daughter relationship is, you can not talk to your mother. There are feelings that are just too hard to express to anyone. I believe a daughter is afraid of disapproval by her mother. She doesn't want to even suspect that her mother is disapointed in her. Kara knows that Leigh is a strong rightous person, maybe sometimes a child believes it too much.Thinking a parent can do no wrong and the child does not want to see the hurt in their mother's eyes when they make a mistake especially one they couldn't avoid. They couldn't avoid the mistake but feel the parents wouldn't have made that mistake or the parents would think they wouldn't make the mistake.
10-23-2007 09:50 PM
10-24-2007 12:21 AM
Leigh responds to her son in a more loving way because he gives her something back for her caring IMO. Kara does not seem to like her, and often seems angry at her for things she did herself. Mothers mostly do love all their children, but like some more than others. Maybe just because they are more likable. Or a better personality match.
Yes Bonnie, you are so right by using the word like. We love all our children and most likely very equal but a easy child is easy to like or one that has alot of good characterics. We might tend to like the best.
10-26-2007 11:58 PM - edited 10-26-2007 11:58 PM
Message Edited by Stephanie on 10-26-2007 11:58 PM
10-29-2007 10:01 AM
Well said, Debbie! Most parents are "blessed" with a difficult child.