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Melissa_W
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THE DOLL: "A Difference in Temperament"

Please use this thread for discussion of "A Difference in Temperament".

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I loved the insight into human nature in this story.  This couple really love each other, but have a hard time understanding each other because of their 'difference in temperament'.  He loves her so much, but wants some time for himself, while she wants to do everything together.  This creates a tension between the two of them that just escalates and escalates.  He wishes she would understand, while she feels he doesn't want to be with her enough.  When he wants to go out and she objects, he offers to stay, but she doesn't want him to stay just because she wants him to (although he really would like to stay), and her reaction drives him to leave.  When he buys her an azalea and is excited to give her his gift, she just thinks he did it to appease her.  What I found ironic was that his thoughts are mostly about how much he loves her, while her thoughts are mostly about how he doesn't love her enough.  She keeps thinking about how she wishes he would make some gesture, but when he does, she doesn't recognize it.  I wonder how it will all turn out eventually.

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dulcinea3 wrote:

I loved the insight into human nature in this story.  This couple really love each other, but have a hard time understanding each other because of their 'difference in temperament'.  He loves her so much, but wants some time for himself, while she wants to do everything together.  This creates a tension between the two of them that just escalates and escalates.  He wishes she would understand, while she feels he doesn't want to be with her enough.  When he wants to go out and she objects, he offers to stay, but she doesn't want him to stay just because she wants him to (although he really would like to stay), and her reaction drives him to leave.  When he buys her an azalea and is excited to give her his gift, she just thinks he did it to appease her.  What I found ironic was that his thoughts are mostly about how much he loves her, while her thoughts are mostly about how he doesn't love her enough.  She keeps thinking about how she wishes he would make some gesture, but when he does, she doesn't recognize it.  I wonder how it will all turn out eventually.


Here's what I wrote about this story:

A vignette on saying what you mean and how to treat a spouse.  Nothing special.

 

I am glad you found more to like in it than I did.  :smileyhappy:

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I think it is a very sad story, about how things can turn out badly between to people even though they sincerely love each other. Their love for each other is so powerful and so blind that they just don't see how to behave between each other in order to make the other one happy. There is a complete misunderstanding of the other one's need. I think they will have a hard time being happy together.

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chadadanielleKR wrote:

I think it is a very sad story, about how things can turn out badly between to people even though they sincerely love each other. Their love for each other is so powerful and so blind that they just don't see how to behave between each other in order to make the other one happy. There is a complete misunderstanding of the other one's need. I think they will have a hard time being happy together.


I agree.  I think it will just keep getting worse.

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