03-25-2008 11:43 AM
03-26-2008 06:40 PM
03-27-2008 05:46 PM
Wow this has gotten heated and turned away from Josie and Matt sort of. Regardless of how schools treat sex ed, parents need to become more involved than Alex was. Yes she gave the sex talk, and it looks like it really kind of stuck with Josie but then she turned a blind eye as Josie and Matt were having sex down stairs. I think there are too many parents that bury their heads in the sand when it comes to really talking and working with your kids about sex. It is obvious that Josie and Matt, especially Josie, were too young to be having sex. Sex can really complicate any relationship much less one that has turned abusive. Sex can be about control, and Matt used it in order to gain even more control over Josie. Had the sexual aspect not been there, would Josie have stuck around as long? Would she have felt as connected to Matt as she did?Overall, I think Josie and Matt were in too deep for them, but I have a hard time dismissing high school romances as I am married to my high school sweetheart. We have been together for 10 years, and I can't imagine my life without him. One thing I do think that helped us was that we didn't have sex until we were in college (and a little ways in at that). As I said earlier, sex complicates a relationship, and it could have been devastating to our relationship if we had done it too soon. I don't think either one of us was emotionally or mentally ready for that kind of impact on our relationship. Now don't get me wrong, we fooled around but nothing more than 2nd base or so, and I think it gave us the ability to work out some of those hormones without going too far.Karla
04-09-2008 02:36 PM
04-09-2008 10:33 PM
Thanks for your post, it was very interesting. So you are saying that you and your husband kind of grew up together and became adults with children together. You are so blessed that it worked out so well. I was married at 17 and had a baby at 18 and it didn't last but five years with another baby on the way. We never know, it just happens, either we win or loose, of course if we could live it over we would know how to make it work. But then it wouldn't be called life as we know it, would it? May you be blessed with many many more years of happiness.
djones526 wrote:Hi all, I am new to posting here, but just finished this book and HAD to talk about it. I absoultly loved this book and really felt for Josie and Matt. Like Josie, I began a very intense relationship in HS when I was 14. I am now 27 and still married to him! Sometimes it did feel as if we were one person, instead of 2 people. He was a typical jock and I was the good student cheerleader. I got pregnant at 16. Girls always seem to be more mature than boys and when I got pregnant it definatley showed. He was very suppportive, but was more interested in his friends than supporting a family. My husband is great and obviously grew out of this-we now have 3 children and he is a police officer.I was really taken back when Josie shot Matt. He was abusive, but that was not what I was expecting. I think she felt guilty about Peter and it all came to a head. I was/am kind of disturbed by the fact she was going to his grave everyday, yet SHE SHOT HIM.Just as a side note to some of the other dicussions. I went to an all-girl school and was raised in a very strong christian background. I followed the rules my parents set, but they really had no idea. I was not a bad kid. I was probably the last girl anyone would have expected to get pregnant. It can happen to anyone. i didn't really date-just groups-but we still had enough time alone. I always tell my husband that our kids won't be able to get away with anything because we did it all.