Our Valentine's Day author guest blog comes courtesy of blogger Sarah Wendell, author of Everything I Know About Love I Learned from Romance Novels. Her charming book is a smart, heartfelt collection of life lessons that she and fellow fans and writers have learned from romance books over the years. In honor of this most romatic of holidays, Sarah's offering NOOK Blog readers a summary of her top 5 lessons. Enjoy!

 

 

In Everything I Know about Love I Learned from Romance Novels , I, along with many romance readers and bestselling authors, outline the lessons we've learned from reading a marvelous number of romance novels. Here, in condensed format, are the top 5 lessons romance novels can teach you about achieving real-life happy endings.

 

5. Know yourself. Know what you want and what you like. Be the heroine of your own life. You can't find what makes you happy if you don't know what it is. It sounds really easy and obvious, but there can be a world of separation between what you want and enjoy, and what you might think you're supposed to want and enjoy.

 

4. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want! No romance novel featuring a psychic (and there are many!) ever featured a scene where the hero could telepathically determine the heroine's every wish and desire. How boring would that be? There's risk and danger in asking frankly for what you want, but there's ample reward and enjoyment when you get it.

 

 

3. Happy ever afters take work, attention, time, and caring. Happiness is not easy, but the effort is worth it. There's a reason many romances are 300+ pages long: the happy ever after is earned a thousand times over. The characters have to overcome conflict and fix a few pesky issues. That's true in real life, too. Author Teresa Medeiros said it best: never stop courting your spouse.

 

2. Value every relationship in your life, not just the romantic ones. Romance characters that readers love have more than just a romantic relationship: they have friends. Siblings. Parents. People who love them. Valentine's Day can be an overwhelming message about romance and couplehood, but it's also important to celebrate and value the people who love you, and the people who you love, every day - including Valentine's.

 

1. Happy endings are not about perfection. No romance character says, "I'd love you if you could change all these little things about yourself" - not without learning the error of that demand by the end of the story! Romance is about loving someone for who they are, right then, and knowing that you are loved in return, not in spite of but becauseof who you are.

 

Happily ever afters are not something that happens someday. They happen right now - to you. No matter what relationships you're celebrating this Valentine's Day, I hope we all live happily ever after.


 

Since Valentine's Day is a time to share your love with your kids as well, don't forget to explore our NOOK Kids' collection, with holiday books featuring Elmo, Dora the Explorer, Snuggle Puppy and more here.

 

 

 


 


A free sample excerpt from Sarah's book is available for download on the product page now!


NOOK owners: go to shop and search for "Sarah Wendell" to download her inspiring book.

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by Author Jessa_Slade on ‎02-14-2012 04:07 PM

"There's a reason many romances are 300+ pages long: the happy ever after is earned a thousand times over."

 

I love this line. It justifies my wordiness :smileyhappy: and it's also a great reminder for real life: You have to fight for the HEA through every page and on all the days that AREN'T Valentine's Day.