That's the new Android 4.0 default.
You'll have to find apps that are built for Android 4.0. In 4.0 the default dialogs moved to a different theme and apps written for earlier versions of Android sometimes have the problem you mention.
Just go to whatever store you got them from and check for apks built for 4.0, or the latest version.
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